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Feelings of rejection or loneliness can increase the risk of suicide. In addition, whilst it employs some well-known techniques of persuassion, I think there is a tone of sincerity. Organize a depression screening You can do this at your school or workplace. Reach out to them at random intervals. Resources to fight depression.
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UK Edition. Then he disappeared again. End of story no discussion. This totally crushed me.
I have questions and he refuses to answer. I have been through a break up of a 20 year marriage. That was a rough one, but this hurts my heart more then that did. Reading this article reminds me I am not alone. Am hoping to save up and one day sign up for one of your seminars. Your articles helped me during my marriage break up and I know they will help me through this.
Thank You. My heart hurts hearing your story. I would advise you to make saving money for it a priority. Fate freed you up to find a match that you deserve that will be more fulfilling.
After many years of twists and turns, the river has brought me to many, many places of joy that I would have not discovered on my own, had I been the Captain constantly. Just know that unless something is equally fought for, it will never be right and so to honor yourself, let it go, as Nature intended. And that, is the key to growth. Your messages and wisdom are so inspiring especially now I am going through very confusing and tough times.
I appreciated the what to say to your depressed friend part of this article. But this friend is in such a hard place having suffered deep betrayal, catastrophic losses, and no real friends besides me and we are not all that close and I live across the country from her. What can I say to her?
Standing in her shoes, suicide would look like a good option. OK, maybe I should call her more rather than waiting for her to call me. Any other thoughts? Peggy, Call her more often. Send her a card. Keep it up. As one who has been going through a long depression, I have been buoyed by my couple of life line friends. Now I have gone to get help through meds. I can see a light at the end of the tunnel. I was expecting a post geared more toward those suffering from depression, but I thoroughly enjoyed this post as well and thought it was very informative for those who have loved ones suffering from depression.
One of the biggest challenges of my life was when I lost my mother four years ago. She was in an ICU for more six weeks, and the toughest part was making that difficult decision to pull her out of that situation. Surprisingly, my siblings and I felt relief when we finally made that difficult decision. That was one of the stressful days of my life. The other one was when my son was diagnosed with a rare type of pneumonia last year and had to have lung surgery. It was difficult, and my inner strength was tested, but I had to be tough for my son and for the whole family.
We are spiritual beings emersed in a human experience. I went through a very painful divorce twenty years ago and where my heart was shattered, I vowed not to let anger enter into my feelings. We have three adult children, who were adults at the time, and I knew we would have numerous occasions where we would need to be together graduations, weddings, funerals and if we could not be in the same room together and be comfortable, no one else in the room would be comfortable which was not fair to our children.
Therefore, my Ex and I have remained friends and continue to openly communicate when discussing birthday gifts, graduation gifts, etc.
Even though he has remarried, we all are together for every big occasion involving the kids and do fine. First of all, you are right about the cliches. At the time of the divorce, the classic cliches did not help. And, to finish on a positive note, I have found a wonderful man who makes that work easier. I feel like we must be sisters somehow. To hate and blame forever would shatter the incredible gift of our 15 yrs together, and turn so many wonderful memories to scum.
Why would I want that? In a way I am still fighting for my marriage — for the memory of all that it was. I appreciate you sharing, thank you xx. I have read your posts for years and never commented! Thank you for this. It really touched me, especially point 2. Twenty six years ago I suffered a major head injury and over the years went through the healing both mentally and physically associated with this. As you will know suicide is very common among head injury patients, especially when they get insight which ironically is a sign healing is happening.
I was so lucky I had a support and sought professional help.
Those dark days shaped my life and made me the person I am today. My friend committed suicide 20 years ago and even though I myself have been to dark places I have never been able to put in words what it feels like to drive you to do it. Thank you for putting it into words. Thank you for your helpful article. The types of trauma you mention are all situations, devastating as they are, experienced in adulthood.
Trauma incurred as a child goes so much deeper. Adults have years of building strengths, resources, choices and power that provide a foundation for coping with trauma when it comes along. Children have none of that: the younger the child, the less power they have over any aspect of their lives.
When people who are supposed to love and protect you are the ones hurting you, deliberately and repeatedly, your power is reduced pretty much to the simple will to survive. Nor does childhood trauma have to begin in abuse: it could be an accident or illness, an untimely family relocation, the death of a sibling or friend — the things you are talking about, only experienced from the more limited resources of childhood.
I believe the purpose of suffering is to provide the opportunity for growth, and that the healing process includes the capacity to choose to transmute pain into a gift, many gifts, that help others to heal, that help the world to heal. I am indeed a spiritual being with a spiritual purpose to fulfill through my human experiences. But my level of joy is also unattainable any other way. You described how I feel so perfectly. The lost in the woods metaphor describes my situation perfectly. Truly hope you find your way out. What an amazing article!
What insight you shared! Several of my children had enormous losses and find it so difficult to cope and deal with these losses in a productive and healthy way. Thank you Marc and Angel for sharing your hearts, encouragement and wisdom.